Monthly Archives: January 2017

The Last Straw!

Years ago, in foster care, I had a foster sister who kept cutting school and getting into trouble. She was angry and cussing out all authority figures. She had no respect for authority at all. At one point, she got a new social worker, and after a while, she got to know the new one. She ended up telling the social worker she had been raped at school. The social worker didn’t believe her at first. There were statistics of how rape victims behaved. This young lady had been raped and molested numerous times in her life. The social worker thought because of statistics, she should not be functioning as she was, she should be in the hospital, medicated or something. Well, eventually, she did believe the young lady, and sought to get her treatment.

In actuality, the young lady was very strong, but she had post traumatic stress disorder. She really didn’t think much of what happened because it had happened so many times before, she just didn’t want to put herself in that situation again so she stopped going to school. It’s a sad plight many girls,  boys, men, and women go through. Everyone is different and isn’t going to respond in the same way. We all have our breaking point. When you see people out marching, demonstrating, protesting, you gotta believe there’s a reason for it! The straw finally broke the camel’s back. There was a catalyst that may actually not have much to do with what happened to them, but believe me they are fed up with the status quo. They need justice, need to see a change, and for social systems to improve.

It’s a beautiful thing when people gather together in one voice and ask for change to happen. If you don’t see a reason for it, that’s okay, but don’t stop them. Listen to their stories, understand their point of view, and know that perhaps in little ways, they have been trying to say it for a long time, but no one heard them. At the same time, speak up for the helpless, for those being oppressed, for the hungry, for the thirsty, for the homeless, for those experiencing social injustices, and don’t wait until you just can’t stand it anymore. It’s always a good time to show empathy and wild compassion!

Personal Responsibility

I was inspired to write this today after watching the presidential inauguration today. I really didn’t appreciate much of the commentary remarks by the reporters. I just wanted to “see” what was going on. It’s all pretty obvious though isn’t it? I mean, if you look at the scenes, some were happy and others were down right angry! The most profound thing was when President Trump talked about giving the country back to the people. I heard him say that we are each responsible and not the government! The government really can only do so much as the people allow it to lead anyway. We the people are responsible.

I remember years ago, a member of a church asked the Pastor why they didn’t have a surplus of food for those who were hungry. The Pastor said it was because the government has programs and resources for the poor. I was a bit outraged by this mentality. Someone comes to your church hungry and you’ve got nothing for them but some scriptures? How does that work? Why relinquish this to the government? Is the government more powerful than God, or anyone, for that matter, who is able to help someone in need?

I am personally responsible for how I behave and conduct myself, not the government, not my family, not my community, not anyone else! It’s up to me to live my core values based on what I have chosen for myself and not to try to force them upon someone else for my own level of comfort. It’s always an individual choice. Look at mob mentality, many people join together as a mob to protest and sometimes do damage, some join the act just because they were there and have no idea how they really feel about the situation. However, the mob mentality works the other way, too. The mob mentality can be used to get people to also join together for good and peace. It doesn’t always have to be about an angry outburst, wrecklessness and destruction. Everyone can stop and decide for themselves to behave in peaceful and constructive ways.

I am challenged this year to be a little more compassionate, less judgmental, more forgiving and loving to myself and others. I am doing this regardless of who is in Office right now. It’s always an individual decision! It’s my personal choice. It’s not because of God, religion, social mores, or standards of conduct, but it’s how I feel inside. I choose to present myself with integrity and honor because it just feels good! It makes my heart happy. I lead by the heart. It feels good to my body, my mind and my soul to be a nice and considerate person. Love and compassion is a choice!

Aha Moments

A few days ago, I went to the store to find some aerobic dance shoes. I needed some shoes that would help me glide as I dance. Within minutes at the store, I heard over the speakers, the song, Just Dance by Lady Gaga. I laughed inside for the coincidence or synchronicity of it! I just notice these things all of the time! Everyday, I see numbers, signs, words, people engaging in various activities which relate to what I’m doing! Have you every noticed it? The things that are on our minds and hearts tend to show up! It’s not always the case, but it does happen to me a lot. I see it as a bit of divine inspiration. I also see it as my reason to make a conscious effort to watch my thoughts, and make intentional choices everyday to do what I know in order to achieve my goals, desires of my heart, and aspirations.

There are signs in creation and all around us everyday that inspire our daily lives. If I open my eyes and my heart to notice, I’ll know that I am never alone and there is always hope. Life is easy and never a reason to worry or fear. If it sounds like I’m in a bubble, you’re right! I’m in a bubble of belief and support that everything good always comes my way, I’m loved and all is well!!! Look for those synchronicities and have your own aha moments! When I started seeing them, I realized the beauty, love, and magic of life! Life is magical!

Wild Compassion

This year, I’m focusing my attention and energy on more compassion for myself and others. The other title for this blog post was going to be “cut the bullsh*t!” I’ve been cutting out all kinds of BS from my life and belief system lately. I just don’t believe the “I have to”, “need to”, and “should” messages anymore. It’s just that in this world there is judgment, lack of empathy, and impatience towards others and ourselves. If we’re not where we wanted to be or where we think someone else “should” be, it’s easy to be harsh, critical and judgmental. I don’t believe it’s my place to do this for anyone, including myself. It’s my responsibility to love myself, and to love others.

Wild compassion is forgiving others, letting them off the hook, being kind, gracious, and loving because I’ve received compassion, patience, forgiveness, kindness, grace, and love. It’s letting people be who they are without trying to fix them. It’s letting people grow and learn in their own time and in their own way. It’s being there when someone asks for help, but not insisting on my way. It’s letting people have their own belief system and not judging it. It’s recognizing we’re all at different stages of growth and evolution.

I used to be so hard on myself. I was critical, judgmental, and easily frustrated because I wasn’t where I wanted to be, I didn’t achieve my goals, and perceived myself to be a failure or sinner bound for hell. That’s just a bunch of bullsh*t and doesn’t help me to grow, but wallow in pity and helplessness. I was so miserable, sad, depressed, angry and unforgiving towards myself and others. I had no dignity for myself. Now I know better. I know to lighten up, be easy on myself, gracious, merciful, forgiving, patient, compassionate, and loving. Now I love myself. I love all of me, all of my flaws and imperfections. It’s okay to be human. I love my mind and body by giving myself unlimited and unconditional wild compassion.